30 is not the new 20- Meg Jay

Okay, this saddened me a little but hopefully it will help someone else. I wish I had some of this knowledge at 24; I would be on a much better life path now. It may never be too late to make changes to one life but one would have lived a better life if the right changes were made earlier.

Staying friends

 
What really is the point of staying friends with one's ex ? I had to ask my self this question a few days ago when I found out an ex of mine was getting married and another contacting me to rekindle our relationship.

I've had my fair share of love and relationships and I in most cases stay friends with men I dated, I am not sure why. There really is no rule as to why I should or shouldn't be friends with them. When do I say no to remaining friends with someone who chose not to be in my life or to one who I decided wasn't deserving of my affection?

So I've been asking my self why should I remain friends with a recent ex of mine who is getting married. He insists that we remain good friends and I still mean a lot to him and still wants me in his life. My first thought was " Why are humans to selfish? Why must he eat his cake and have it? and as his "friend" should I pretend to be happy he is marrying someone other than me?" Then I looked back and realized I too have broken up with someone and still expected him to remain my friend. I wanted him to remain in my life because he is a wonderful guy (wasn't wonderful enough at the time to me, to take it to the next level)  but I still wanted to have him in my life.

So here I am hurt but in realization that I too have done the same. Do I remain friends with him and pretend to be happy, just as I expected from someone else ? Why?.... because friends are meant to be happy for each others growths and successes. Or should I shut him out of my life seeing that I do have enough friends already?

I will let y'all know what I decide.