The beginning of self love

The beginning of self love is to love your natural hair ........

Conquering the twist - outs

After having two strand twist for a week I loosened the twists and have been rocking very nice twist outs. I've been learning so much about my hair and how best to manage it. I am so excited about further growth and all the new wonderful things I can do with my natural hair.

These were taken Saturday afternoon as I set out to meet up with my friends. I got a lot of compliments on my hair, which boosted my confidence in the way I styled my hair.

Now that I am getting better at handling my natural hair, I have decided to take a make-up class to also enhance my beauty skills. I think it is important and helpful to know the basics on make-up for us natural ladies mainly because we don't  have weaves to hide behind. Make-up and accessories are so important to us naturals. I hope to learn how to apply make to look as natural as possible, I am not a big fan of a lot of make up on my face as I suffered from acne as a teenager and even into my early twenties. I still get break-outs, so keeping my face clean and oil free is so important to me.

Any ways have a wonderful week.

Mirror Mirror .... Who is the fairest ?

Remember that song “the video star killed the radio star" or something like that?  Well the video stars also killed/kills the self image of every young woman who watches TV. And it isn't just the TV but print media as well, all forms of media help promote poor self image in women. As if looking in the mirror and not liking what we see isn't bad enough.  It is said that on average 8 out of every 10 women have an issue with their bodies; there are a few things we wish we could change or improve. Many celebrities have confessed to having poor self image too. The reinforced myth of thinner women being more attractive is everywhere, in the media, school, and social gatherings and even in the family.

The simple description of poor self image is when we have a picture of ourselves in our minds and that image differs from reality.

But the truth is for those of us who won’t and can’t have a little snip and tuck here and there, we have to live with our bodies.  But we forget after all, it is the only one we have and we were fearfully and wonderfully made.

Having a poor self image doesn't let you enjoy your body and your life. I am constantly worrying that my tummy is too big or my hips are too big or my legs are too skinny or I look flat chested in that dress or top. The more I think about it the more I realize that I am overlooking the better parts such as how my skin glows or how nice my figure is or like how soft my natural hair is etc. I also realized that I am always verbal about the complaints I have about parts of my body I dislike and when I have a daughter , having to hear negative views from me about my body will also give her the same insecurity issues. 

 I am no expert but a good way to combat poor self image other than seeing a professional is to accept that you will never get any other body than the one you have now so why not love it and take care of it? Eating healthy and exercising regularly will help you feel better about yourself. As for problems that are more internal, it is better to see and talk to a professional.   

I notice the more I work at looking better by eating right and working out the better I feel about my body, even the parts I disliked before I begin to see how they works beautifully with the others and how as a whole I am one beautiful sexy creature. 

Bottom line is love the skin you are in and take care of it. 

So I vow to love my body with all its flaws and everyday say one less negative thing about it.